Because broken homes don't have to mean broken hearts...
On March 15, 2006 an Angel came into my life. On March 7, 2014 my Xhusband took her away...
An estimated $10k is needed to bring my little girl, who is now being withheld from me by my X husband, back home to the family that loves her.
Police and Family and Children's Services are unable to assist us due to the loopholes in our current court order (where we have Joint Custody), and there's nothing I can do about it except fight the matter in court which is a lengthy and expensive process.
It's utterly heart breaking to myself, my son and my extended family as we have been unable to see or speak to our sweet little girl for weeks now- not even on her birthday.
The situation surrounding my case has gone from an overblown parental dispute that got out of hand to a barrage of false allegations being made to the Children's Aid Society and police, in only a few short weeks.
My quiet little life has turned into a full on nightmare; non of which is warranted, nor was I prepared for.
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The monitary matter of it boils down to what should have been an inexpensive matter (merely changing a few things in a current court order) has now become an all out Custody Battle to the bitter end which will require more money then I have, and possibly more then I would even be able to come up with.
I am doing everything I can to come up with as much money as possible, as quickly as possible; but I fear it will not be enough...
Right now I require at least $5000.00 in retainers alone just to get an appointment with a lawyer who will charge me $400.00 per hour in legal fees, and an additional $1000.00+ per day should the matter actually go to trial; which I'm sure it will.
I've estimated $10k should be enough; but it's very hard to say for sure how long this will go on, and just how much it will cost in the end.
I never would have never believed this could happen to us, not even when my Xhusband made these threats 2 years ago, in an attempt to make me submit to his restrictive access schedule:
"If you don't back off I'll take S----- away from you and I'll make sure you don't see her again until a court demands I give her to you, and I'll make sure I drag my heels in court as much as I can and it could be easily a year or more before you even see your daughter again."
"If you don't back off I'm gonna call CAS and have them take B---- away from you too. I'll make sure you never get to have either of your kids in your custody again K----. Is that what you want?"
Because I lived in fear of these actions, I did submit, and I allowed access to my daughter, which should have gone back to her living full time with me and her brother, as of September 2012 (as per our agreement made in May of 2010), to an every other weekend visit; which was what we had arranged when I moved to Toronto to go back to school, and I allowed my X to take official residence of our girl on a 2 year term.
When I moved back to the tricities my X refused to abide our agreement, served me papers seeking full custody of our daughter, and made the threats quoted above.
My Xhusband told me that if I stuck to every other weekend visits, and did not press for any more time or parenting rights, I could continue to see my daughter without issue and he would not proceed against me in court.
Terrified to have my family torn apart, I did submit to his demands. I stuck to his every other weekend limitation, and I was refused any say in my daughters care or upbringing. I was not included in her school paperwork, I was excluded from her school events and extracurricular activities, I was not informed of any medical conditions or illnesses, and I wasn't even called when she was taken to the emergency room with a broken collar bone- I was completely devalued and excluded from her life; less my every other weekend...
I had become a mother only in name because everything else was taken from me; but I allowed it and suffered it willingly in order to keep my children together (as much as we could be together) and to remain some kind of consistant part of my little girls life.
Since March 7, 2014 my Xhusband has actived on each one of his aforementioned threats.
- CAS was called to investigate a laundry list of lies; some of which included my son, and all of which were found to be untrue.
- Police have been called, several times; wherein my X has tried to charge me on 3 separate occasions, for various things- charges which were false and thus never laid against me.
- I have been completely cut off from my little girl and I've not been able to see or speak to my daughter since March 7 2014, the first day she was withheld from me.
My daughter is a mere 5 minute walk away, and I'm not even able to speak to her because my Xhusband won't allow it...
Why has this happened?
I honestly wish I knew. I still have not received any official reason from my Xhusband as to why he is doing this.
The reasons I had received from his lawyer and from the CAS investigation, which he had expressed as his reasons, have all been investigated and proven to be completely untrue.
Nothing of any significance happened prior to his refusing me my child. No warnings were given, no 'issues' were ever presented to me as concerns for her safety or welfare- nothing was ever mentioned, and to this day he cannot give a real, valid reason for his actions.
Non of this is fair or right for my little family!
We are literaly fighting for the right to love her right now; a fight that should not be hapenning, and which we cannot afford to loose.
I truly hate to ask because I am just not the kind of person to ask for hand outs or charity; but I cannot allow my own shame in not being prepared for this, and my own selfish pride that paints that picture of a perfect little life get in the way of what's needed right now. I do need help right now because I truly can't do this on my own. So I ask, on behalf of my family, and the love we share, that anyone who can help us (whether it be money, resources or guidance) please lend your support in bringing my little girl home.
Thank You!
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